updated 10/26/2007 3:46:15 PM ET 2007-10-26T19:46:15

No parent's supposed to have a favorite kid — so shouldn't kids play by the same rules? In response to a recent story about a mom whose toddler is a classic daddy's girl, readers responded with their own stories about their child's favorite caregiver.

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While Adrian of El Paso, Texas, loves how attached his 3-year-old daughter is to him, he and his wife are trying to teach their little girl that certain occasions are really more Mommy's territory.

"When it is time to go to the restroom, the first words out of her mouth are, 'Daddy do it!'" writes Adrian. "We are trying to get her to learn that Mommy takes her to the ladies room, especially when we are out in public, but it is a painstakingly slow lesson."

But for Julie of Memphis, Tenn., the favorite parent in the house is Mommy. She works full-time while her husband stays at home with their young son and daughter.

"They love Daddy, but given their choice, it is Mommy every time. They cling to me the moment I arrive home," Julie writes. "This makes me feel great, and my husband does not mind either! I can not imagine how I would feel if they started rejecting me!"'

Keep reading for more responses.

The first two years of my son's life, I can't even remember showering without him in the bathroom with me. I mean, I had to lay a towel down, put toys on the floor and sit him next to them. Once he got old enough and started rough-housing, dad was the MAN. He didn't even want me to hand him his plate. The entire time he was stuck to my hip, all I could think of was having some time without him. When he didn't choose me, all I could think of was what I was doing wrong. Now having been on both side of the fence, I can understand that it was just two of the many different ways to enjoy our son.
— Tamara, Seattle

My daughter ... has always preferred my husband over me. When we all go anywhere together, she gets upset when we stop and he gets out of the car. She cries at the top of her lungs as if she is in the car alone, yet — there I sit. I am a stay-at-home mom and have been for most of her life. I like the fact that sometimes she isn't bothering me. On the flip side of that, it bothers me that she is always bugging him. ... We realize that she just loves her daddy. Not that she does not love me — but she LOVES him.
— Anonymous, Saint Marys, Ga.

I was at a family gathering a few months ago where my mom lamented that I had always been a daddy's girl. I protested vehemently, especially considering that it's now my mom that I talk to every day from law school! When I read this article it gave me a chance to think about what it must have been like for my mom and how hard this can be. Sometimes moms don't give themselves enough credit. ... Mom was definitely in charge in my family, and yes, dads do make it more fun, but I wouldn't be who I am today without both of them!
— Elise, Boston

My wife and I have actually had arguments about this and why our daughter likes me more and not her. When my wife and daughter are together they're great but then they get me from work or when I come back from somewhere my daughter will blow off anyone when I'm around her.
Adam, Lolo, Mont.

I think my husband is the most awesome person I have ever met, so seeing the way I love and pine over their father, wouldn't it be natural for my child to think so, too?
— Amber, Utah

My children adore their dad and have always preferred him to me. I worked long hours away from home and he works at home. I think it is wonderful that they have such a great relationship and I don't feel guilty leaving them with their dad.
— Kelly, Manistee, Mich.

My older daughter was ... still is a daddy's girl at 8, then as she got older she shifted over to me. It helped when we worked hard to minimize her attention for going to Daddy. My husband would do "boring" things with her, and give her the choice of a fun activity with Mom.
— Jeanie, Houston

I did this to my parents — my dad was my favorite — and I'm not sure my mother ever quite totally forgave the two of us for it. When we all were grown up, she had a closer relationship with my youngest sister who preferred her more than the two oldest of us. It certainly has affected our memories of her that she showed her resentment so much.
— Kat, Winston-Salem, N.C.

My two are definite Daddy's girls! In fact, I told him I should have given him a card on Mother's Day!
— Shelly, Virginia

I am the favorite parent for my son. I bonded with him the second he was born. His father plays a role in his life, but really doesn't have parenting skills and my son sees his father as one large plaything.
— Deborah, Fort Worth, Texas

My fourth child, a girl, locked her eyes on me after birth and from then on was daddy's girl. She is 22, married and is well adjusted due to our bonding. She calls me at least two to three times a week to check on her Daddy.
— Anonymous, Florence, S.C.

I am the husband of a soldier who is currently deployed to Iraq. We have a 3-year-old boy. I am the one who takes care of him, and have done so for most of his life, even before she deployed. Well, he prefers me. ... So, what's wrong with that? Should I be upset if she were the preferred parent? Why? We both love our son and he loves us. Who feeds and cleans and changes him probably makes a difference, but the fact is, men are no better or worse as primary caregivers than women. I am glad I have the opportunity and desire to build a special relationship with my son that most men miss out on. ... The day of the absent father is long past. We men are more involved with our kids, want as much for our children, and are willing to make sacrifices once reserved for the martyred females. We can be "Mommy" too. If only more of us had the chance.
— Michael, Fort Hood, Texas

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