this morning my question. what will stem the tide of
sexual assault in the u.s. military
plus, house minority leader
is coming to nerd land.
and st moral protest in
. this time it's
and so much more. but first,
, sex and who is really at risk? good morning. i'm melissa harris-perry. monday evening,
. the unbelievable story that has dominated the news cycle began with this call to 911. i've been kidnapped and i've been missing for ten years and i'm here. i'm free now.
that was 27-year-old amanda berry who disappeared the day before her 17th birthday in
, calling for help after emergeg from a 10-year nightmare. berry along with her 6-year-old daughter was freed from the house of who rows where they were held captive. sometimes bound with ropes and chains. more than a decade. the survival story of these women after enduring abduction, enslavement and torture is a chilling echo of others like jaycee dugard and elizabeth smard that have also captured national attention. these are the stories they remember because they go to the heart of the most horrifying svu filled nightmares of teen
and sexual vulnerability. but far more common when it comes to
denied the support to emerge safely into womanhood in an environment of sexual consent and exploration. instead they are shaped, exploited and sometimes denied
. we got a good glimpse of what that looks like in policy form. they would have advanced minors to get notarized consent from a parent or guardian to be treated for a
sexually transmitted disease
, pregnancy, substance abuse or mental illness. backers of the bill were hoping it would, quote, reinforce the long standing pruesumption that fit parents act in the
of their children. this is the that all children have fit parents. it ignores that some are survivors of rape by the parent or guardian that would have to give their okay. it overlooks the uncomfortable truth that younger women are more likely to have an older male as the first
, which is associated with a increased risk of unpanted pregnancy, childbearing and
the diseases. pregnancies go up while the likelihood goes down. at the
, the obama administration is per suing the opposition to lifting age restrictions on
over the counter
emergency contraceptions. this is one of the safest purchases a
could make at the drugstore. so devoid of opposing
to the drug, the administration boils down to this. listen, i get it. it is not a thought that a parent wants to entertain. but less appealing is the idea of
facing unintended pregnancies and finding themselves with limited production on options. we cannot escape the facts? 7 in 10 teens have had
and thinking about teen
being vulnerable to
makes you want to
now, you may want to take a deep breath for this. some of those sexually active
because they really like it. now you can stop clutching your pearls. the fact is that all teenagers who are
are not just acting out some kind of pathological behavior. safe, consenting, pleasurable, abandoning the willful ig forns requires embracing both ends of the spectrum. and those who are sexually empowered. comfortable with the discourt. and finally talk about teenage sex, starting right now. dr. melissa gillian and the
center for inquiry
sexual and reproductive health
, both at the
university of chicago
. an education psychologist and professor at
. an organization devoted to helping women deal with domestic violence. she herself was once a survivor. this is what we saw of cleveland was tough.
absolutely. this has got to serve as a wake wake-up call that tolerance will no longer be held when women are violated, when
are violated. and it begs the question, where do we go from here? perhaps amanda and gina and michelle's abduction could have been prevented if ariel
had been held accountable for viciously beating his wife years ago. if the police had followed up on leads that got me on the community and if we as a community paid close attention to the size. we are so plugged in to our iphones and ipads and our busy lives that we become unplugged to humanity.
it feels like a special kind of evil from
at this moment. this is inexplicable and unimaginable. i don't want to imagine it. she told me she's not outside anymore. i worry our response to the who row that we shau in cleveland it's to become more horrified about the idea of the vulnerability of the daughters. so we muss what they are vulnerable too.
if the reaction is let's lock up the daughter and protect them, why is the reaction to make sure the son is not the next ariel
? or make sure my son's friends know how to intervene in cases of rape and
. but the biggest dangers are being uninformed and starting to explore the sexuality. but not strg the legal access to contraception. not being able to talk to the daults in their lives at school. there are only 20 states in the
with hiv education. so we still have
not getting this information. that is where they are the most vulnerable on a day-to-day. you're engaged with
on the ground there in the
city of chicago
on the question of vulnerability. we can look at it two different ways. we are going to be very naive if we think
don't don't have questions. so we have to create these spaces for
. but helping them to thrive this every aspect of their life. and those assets, communications, great schools. all things help to defer the risk behavior.
so we have in part the plan "b" image up. the other piece that was going around behind this was the idea that we need to protect the
. not only from exploitation but of their own decision making. and buying plan "b." st there a good reason to limit the access of plan "b" to young teens?
no, these are policies that harm the most
. there accessing
is really, really difficult for
. so the goal is to lower as many barriers for
. it's really hard for
. and for the
middle of the night
, that's not when you want the unnecessary barriers in place?
what are the key barriers the
are facing? i think a huge bar yeg is the shame in judgment that sexual young
face. and i get the message that
is wrong from all fronts. parents, teachers, music, media, all of that. so that can really inhibit a
from talking to their daughter or to their parents, absolutely. and the shame really silences
if i have to go in to get plan "b" and i live in a
and it's behind the pharmacist counter and i live in a very
and my pharmacist knows my whatever, my aunt. there's ways that because we don't act like it's an antihistamine, we have a shaming position on it.
and this is so much better than trying to call up a doctor you know. it's frut traiting to me. much less the transportation, the finances and the wherewithall to do that. this is so much a better option.
when we come back more about the issue of how we educate
weighed in ob abstinence