“The main thing is that you do this intentionally and mindfully and try to figure out a way to put a kibosh on your spending that’s unnecessary so that you can get back to a baseline understanding of what you really need on a daily basis,” Guy Birken says.
The author and her husband went on a spending ban in January 2012 to pay for a trip to Baltimore. The ban only lasted a month, but the Milwaukee couple learned a lot about their spending habits. And while they had a few slip-ups along the way (including ordering a pizza one night), they managed to reach their goal.
If you’re planning a spending ban, Guy Birken recommends you follow these simple rules.
1. Decide how long it will last
First-timers should keep their timeframe short but not too short, advises Guy Birken. She suggests starting with The Washington Posts’ Michelle Singletary’s recommendation of 21 days.
“You want a long enough portion of time that it will make you change the way you look at things and change your habits, and I think they say it takes two weeks to make a habit, so 21 days is good,” Guy Birken says.
2. Define 'necessity'
When you’re on a spending ban, you should only spend money on necessities like food and medicine, according to Guy Birken. But the author warns that temptation can easily lead to rationalizing what constitutes one. For example, what should you do if your coworkers invite you to lunch?
“That’s not actually a necessity, but it’s very easy for you to say, ‘Well this is all about team building and it’s necessary for my career,’” she says.
You can avoid making rationalizations by deciding beforehand what you will consider a necessity, Guy Birken says.
“Unless you decide ahead of time what an actual necessity is, you’ll get to these situations that are spending temptations and you’ll find a way to make it a necessity in your head,” she says.
3. Plan ahead
There are likely to be some unforeseen expenses during your ban if you don’t plan ahead, according to the financial expert. For example, if you forget about the wedding gift you were supposed to buy, or just remembered that tomorrow is Mother’s Day, you’re not going to have time to shop around.
“During the spending ban you’ve got to kind of look ahead and say, ‘Oh, we’ve got a birthday party coming up, how are we going to handle that?’” she says.
For example, if you remember ahead that your child is going to a birthday party in two weeks, it gives you time to find a toy that’s on sale, or regift an unused one.
4. Know where the extra money will go
Guy Birken warns against putting your spending ban savings in a checking account, where you’ll be tempted to spend it. Instead, put it in a savings account or retirement account, or use it to pay off debt.
“You have to be mindful about what happens to the money you save,” says the writer.
5. Avoid the pitfalls of going on a spending strike
Guy Birken points out some common pitfalls savers tend to fall into on a spending ban, like going on a “last hoorah” buying binge before it starts, or a celebratory spending spree when it’s over.
“That is the opposite of what the spending ban is about,” she notes.
The biggest pitfall, she explains, is guilt. When loved ones invite us out to dinner or a movie, we may feel obligated to go. Guy Birken suggests you be prepared to offer free alternatives, like a free concert in the park.
“Just look at what’s going on in your community and think about things you’re able to offer to your friends that are not going to cost money that you can just offer as an alternative,” she says.
But you should never feel afraid to say “no,” says Guy Birken. Explain to your loved one that you’re on a spending ban and assure them you’ll go out with them another time.
“There are people who will cheer you on for that and hopefully more of your friends will cheer you on,” Guy Birken concluded.
Five simple rules of a spending ban
- Put a time limit on it. If you’re a first timer, keep your spending ban short but not too short. A good timeframe to develop good spending habits is about 21 days.
- Define what a necessity is upfront. When you’re on a spending ban, you should only spend money on necessities, but temptation can lead to rationalizing what constitutes one. Make sure you decide ahead of time what you will consider a necessity versus a want.
- Plan ahead from the beginning. Know what your expenses are going to be before you start, otherwise you may find yourself making more expensive purchases at the last minute.
- Earmark the funds right away. Don’t put the savings from your spending ban in a checking account where you’ll be tempted to spend it. Put it in a savings or retirement account, or use it to pay off debts.
- Avoid putting yourself in difficult situations. Be sure not to go on a buying spree before or after your spending ban, and don’t feel obligated to spend money because your friends want to go out. Offer an alternative that won’t cost you (like a free concert), or politely decline.
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