The Fit Mom Revolution blogger warns that quick-fix dieting programs market self-abuse. They often urge you to reduce or cut out whole good groups from your diet, like carbohydrates, she says, which can be harmful.
“When we say we shouldn’t eat them or we should limit a certain percentage of our daily consumption or what-have-you, we assume that they are bad,” she says.
When we label certain foods as “bad,” she explains, it makes us feel like we are bad people for eating them.
“Granted, yes, some foods are not the best choices for us to have on a regular schedule or basis, but it doesn’t mean we should ban foods from our bodies,” says the wellness coach. “It just creates an unhealthy relationship with them.”
Ask yourself the question, ‘Am I eating in a way that demonstrates true, actual love for my body and appreciation for what it can do or how far it’s gotten me? Or am I eating in a way that demonstrates hate?
“There’s a picture painted that body change should create misery and be uncomfortable and that you have to really push yourself to the point of discomfort and restrict yourself to the point of further discomfort in order to see this change in your body, and that’s part of the self-abuse,” she says.
Many diet and fitness programs send a message that you’re lazy if you aren’t working to get thinner, which can make you feel guilty, says Stubblefield. The real issue, according to her, is that these programs set you up for failure.
“They don’t really want you to succeed because then you won’t need to buy from them anymore,” she says.
The first step to getting truly healthy is to take a look at what you’re eating, advises Stubblefield.
“Ask yourself the question, ‘Am I eating in a way that demonstrates true, actual love for my body and appreciation for what it can do or how far it’s gotten me? Or am I eating in a way that demonstrates hate?”
What’s important, she explains, is to know the difference between diet foods, which are usually highly processed, and foods like vegetables and lean proteins that nourish your body.
When you try to restrict what you eat, you are engaging in controlling behavior, says Stubblefield. But when you start choosing nourishing food, you’re trusting yourself to make good choices.
“You’re going to naturally choose less [unhealthy foods] A) because you know they’re not going to make you feel as great and B) because you’re not as hungry for them, because your body is getting nourished from the other foods,” she says.
Convenience foods and desserts are a part of our lives whether we like it or not, explains Stubblefield, and banning them may do more harm than good.
For example, if we deprive ourselves of that pie we’ve been craving this Thanksgiving, we risk falling victim to what Stubblefield calls “food FoMo” — the fear of missing out on food. This, she warns, can lead to binge eating.
“When we come home maybe a day or two later, we’re going to end up eating something out of that ‘not good category’ to compensate because we felt deprived and we missed out,” she says.
Prioritize vegetables and lean proteins consistently, and you’ll still be able to eat other foods you enjoy, says Stubblefield. Healthy eating is about finding the right balance between restricting and overeating, she adds.
“Losing a significant amount of weight or even losing 10 pounds can happen from focusing on nourishing your body with nutrient-dense foods versus over-restriction and following a strict plan,” she says.