'It Was Horrible': Billie Jean King Recalls Being Outed in 1981
Billie Jean King stands on the court during a match at Wimbledon in England.Getty Images
By Sierra C. Jackson
On the 44th anniversary of her win over Bobby Riggs, Billie Jean King — played by Emma Stone in the new film “Battle of the Sexes,” which chronicles King’s 1973 match against Riggs — recalled a different, but perhaps equally important, event in her life: becoming one of the first athletes to be publicly outed.
"It was horrible," King said of the 1981 incident.
When the news broke, she said her lawyer and her press representative urged her not to admit the truth, but King refused to deny her identity as a lesbian.
“I said: ‘I’m going to do it. I don't care. This is important to me to tell the truth.’” King told NBC News. “The one thing my mother always said, ‘To thine own self be true.’”
When asked, in retrospect, if she would do anything differently, King said, "I'd come out earlier."
But the gay rights activist, now 73, admitted she didn’t start feeling comfortable about being gay until she was 51 years old, after "tons of therapy." She believes this was partly because of the shame many people — including her own parents — associated with homosexuality, which King said “was a big deal in the '70s.”
"Now, the younger ones obviously are like, 'What's the big deal?'" King said.
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While she noted the difference between her own experience and the experience of many LGBTQ people today, who are coming out in a more progressive society, King said she does not want others to go through what she did. "Unless somebody's ready, they shouldn't be outed," she said.
King sent a heartfelt message to LGBTQ youth who are still grappling with their sexual and gender identities.
“You are going to make it, but the most important thing is, I think, is first you gotta feel safe, and you need to have allies with you” she advised.
King described the best type of friends as those who “look at the person, look at their heart, look at their inner success and really go from there, no matter what their sexual orientation is.”
The trailblazer added she supports the different ways LGBTQ teens are expressing themselves and their identities. For example, she said she admires that they've adopted the word "queer," which was at one time used solely as a derogatory term.
"I really like it," she said. "They’ve taken a negative and turned it into a positive. I think it’s great."
King said the bottom line is that she wants the LGBTQ community "to be safe" and "have the same opportunities as anybody else."
Although King has long been an inspiration to LGBTQ individuals and athletes of all genders and sexual orientations, she said she is “not finished.” Now, she is challenging the younger generations to do what they can to create a more inclusive world.
“I hope this ‘Battle of the Sexes’ [movie] is relevant and especially for the millennials and Gen Z kids,” King said. “It’s your turn to lead and to step up. We’re still fighting the same fights.”
“Battle of the Sexes,” also starring Steve Carrell as Riggs, is now in theaters.