“I grew up in a machismo household with a father who yelled at me to ‘walk like a man and not like a faggot,’” Rolón told TODAY Parents. “If you had pulled me aside and said, ‘One day you’ll have a big, happy family,’ I wouldn’t have believed you.”
That’s one of the reasons Rolón, a New York City-wedding planner, began posting footage of life with his 7-year-old son, Avery, and 6-year-old twin daughters, Lilah and London.
“I want LGBTQ youth to know that there’s hope,” Rolón explained, his voice cracking with emotion. "I get messages from moms all the time that are like, 'My son is 13 and he's gay and really struggling. Thank you for showing him what's possible."
Rolón keeps the content light and often pokes fun of gay stereotypes. In one clip that recently went viral, Rolón hilariously responds to a commenter who asked, “Do gay dads want their sons to be like girls or guys?”
The video shows Rolón asking Avery a series of questions, with Avery delivering “gay” answers.
Rolón: “Who’s your queen?
Avery: “That’s easy, Beyoncé.”
Rolón: “Hmmm. I think it’s Janet, but fine. Favorite milk?”
Avery: "(Politician and gay rights activist) Harvey Milk.”
Rolón: “Good! Batman or Robin?”
Rolón: “You fell for the trick question! How do you say ‘yes?’”
Avery: “Yaaaas, queen!”
Rolón: “Good. You’re dismissed.”
“You would never ask a straight parent if they’re raising their child to be gay or straight,” Rolón noted. “I rarely reply to trolls but I couldn’t let this one go.”
The road to fatherhood
Though Rolón has made a name for himself on social media by making people laugh, his life has been marked by personal tragedy.
In 2013, Rolón’s husband, Tim Merrell, died in his sleep. At the time, Avery was an infant and the couple’s surrogate was 11 weeks pregnant with their daughters Lilah and London.
Rolón was terrified he wouldn't be able to raise three children without the love of his life.
“My husband and I were a great team. I couldn't imagine doing it without him," Rolón revealed. “But on the morning of Tim’s funeral service, I woke up and I thought, ‘Avery just lost his father. What if something were to happen to me?’ I didn’t want to leave him alone in this world. I knew what I was supposed to do."
Rolón announced the baby news while giving Merrell's eulogy in a church filled with 400 people.
"That was kind of my call for love and prayers," Rolón said. "And I've been supported ever since. It really does take a village."
Today, that village includes Avery, Lilah and London.
“They have each other and we all have each other,” he said. “I went from being this loner in the world to having a full, abundant family.”