Do women really love dishy men? After an msnbc.com story explored the appeal of a guy who helps out around the house, some readers were eager to share how "choreplay" works in their homes. Perhaps it's best to let the exclamation points speak for themselves.
"This is one of the main reasons why I would marry my boyfriend! He cooks, cleans & does the dishes when I am working late! This is so important! Plus it's such a turn on!!!" writes Rebecca of Charlotte, N.C.
"YES! YES! YES! HE DOES THE DISHES WITHOUT ME ASKING!!!!!!!!!!!" screams an e-mail from Angie of Dallas.
"Oh yes!!!!! A man who will help with the clean up and the dishes has a fast track to heart!!!!!" writes Karen of Rio Grande, Ohio. "There is something very special about the simple act of washing dishes together and talking."
Keep reading for more tales from the kitchen sink.
When my husband and I were dating, I was sitting on the couch with a beer watching the football game — he was standing up on the other side of the room IRONING! We both started to laugh and said, "Something is wrong with this picture." He still helps a lot around the house and this definitely is a turn on.
— Judy, Troy, Mich.
After the failure of my first marriage, I lived on my own for about seven years. It was too costly to order food in/out, so I learned to cook. I couldn't always afford to have my shirts sent to the cleaners, so I did my own laundry & ironing. And I certainly couldn't have afforded a housekeeper, so I learned to push around a vacuum & cleaning brush. When I met my now-wife (she catered to her 1st husband), she couldn't believe what I was capable of. On our first Valentine's Day after we married she gave me a small kitchen magnet that read, "I love a man with dishpan hands." (It's still there today.) We share in the household chores. I wouldn't have realized it otherwise, but she's the envy of her teachers' lunchroom conversation.
— Jeff, Portland, Maine
I am a 70-year-old woman and have been married to my husband for almost 30 years. I am a very clean person and very particular person. My husband has never picked up on this. He never helps me with anything, bills, yard, house, dishes. I would give anything to have a man that helped and was as particular as I am but know it isn't going to happen in my lifetime. Be very careful when you choose your husband, girls — it can be very miserable.
— Phyllis, Terre Haute, Ind.
Both of us work and share in the house work, including dishes and more. If we just get it knocked out then we can get on with whatever else we want to do in the evening.
— Ralph, Dallas
I've been married for 20 years and I don't mind doing the dishes. My wife cooks, why should she clean? I also do all our laundry. Just think of the extra free time she has not having to do the dishes and laundry. I wonder what a woman with extra time on her hands might want to do :)
— Dan, Calif.
I help out a lot. I do the dishes, the wash, etc. My wife could care less.
I am 17 years old. I read about this article and paused for a minute to ask my mom what she thinks about men helping out around the house and she just went ballistic. She said, and I quote, "A man that helps around the house is an angel from God." She thinks that all men aren't created with the genes of helping a woman. Lol. She said that it turns her on when my dad washes dishes and cooks. My mom needs to get out more.
— Sharron, Fort Worth, Texas
I would much rather prefer dishpan hands than six-pack abs! A great body is nice to look at but it won't keep a marriage happy when the woman has to do all the work around the house. My husband and I do all our chores together. I wash the dishes, he puts them away. He vacuums because he knows I hate doing it, so I'll scrub down the bathrooms. He takes out the trash, I do most of the laundry but he'll help out too. Best thing is, he also cooks and brings home almost twice my paycheck! I get a lot of "Does he have any brothers?" and "Can he come home with me for awhile?" quite often. Ladies, sure a rock-hard body would be nice, but take a man who is willing to divide the chores and you'll never regret it!
— Christine, Calif.
I had a boyfriend (now EX-boyfriend) who absolutely refused to help with anything around the house. He literally said to me "That's woman's work. The man does the yard work but the woman takes care of cooking, cleaning and taking care of the inside of the house." We broke up soon after.
— Jennifer, Oceano, Calif.
I am a 58-year-old man who learned to clean up as I cook. It is second nature now. My wife seems to appreciate it. I like a clean kitchen.
— Craig, Marietta, Ohio
I feel like I'm the luckiest woman in the world. I cook and he cleans up after dinner. We share the laundry duty, and he even vacuums without being asked! I once complained that he had never touched the bathrooms. Well, he cleaned every one in the house this past weekend. My husband recognizes that some things just need to be done and it doesn't matter who does it. I enjoy the evenings when we stand side by side loading the dishwasher and chatting. We are only 35 and have been together half our lives. I believe we'll be spending the rest of our days together as happy, healthy and passionate as we are today.
— Dawn, Indianapolis
I love a woman who helps mow the lawn and helps repair the car and helps fix the plumbing and helps fix the leak in the ceiling and helps clean out the gutters and chases the bugs away to.
I've taken the lead in cleaning dishes a number of times when at a friend's party, and not only do the women not comment or undress me with their eyes, I've never gotten a thank you.
I decided to help with house chores after I realized how brutal doing the dishes and laundry are. I still can't believe that women are willing to marry and do dishes and laundry forever. I've always thought that men are supposed to do the hard work around the house. Dishes, laundry, mopping, etc., that's hard work. Mowing the grass? Piece of cake!
— Cangrejero, Sunrise, Fla.