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Prince Harry's memoir, 'Spare,' which captures the ugly sides of royal life, hits bookshelves

The memoir offers new details on the British royal family’s bitter internal feud.
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LONDON — Prince Harry’s memoir was released Tuesday, not only offering new details on the British royal family’s bitter internal feud after days of bombshell revelations and promotional interviews but also describing how he fell headlong in love with his future wife, Meghan Markle.

While many of the details from the book, titled “Spare,” have already been reported, its release at midnight Monday local time (7 p.m. ET) will allow the public to get their hands on a copy of a memoir filled with glimpses into a rarified family riven by disagreement and distrust. 

Some Britons flocked to book shops overnight to be among the first to buy a copy of “Spare.”

Chris Imafidon, chair of an education charity, bought three copies at one store in London.

“I want to be able to paint the picture myself, see it for myself, and then be able to say, OK, yes, maybe things have changed or maybe the person has matured,” he told The Associated Press.

“But if I just read in the newspaper, I don’t think I’ll be satisfied just hearing, because each newspaper gives a totally different picture” of Prince Harry.

Duke of Sussex autobiography - Spare
Chris Imafidon with the newly released book in London on Tuesday. Aaron Chown / AP

While often affectionate about his family, particularly his grandmother, the late Queen Elizabeth II, Harry describes the breakdown in the relationship with his older brother, Prince William, and how his father, now King Charles III, appeared concerned at being overshadowed by his sons and their wives — something Harry says he noticed after announcing his engagement to Meghan.

Harry, 38, said his father couldn’t stand “someone new dominating the monarchy, grabbing the limelight, someone shiny and new coming in and overshadowing him.” 

Harry contends that by planting negative stories in tabloid media, the royal family shared culpability in Harry and Meghan feeling the need to leave the country for their own safety. A throughline throughout the book is his deep and constant fury at the media, which he says he believes helped kill his mother, Princess Diana; “persecuted” the royals; and “waged a ruthless campaign” against Meghan. 

“There was a new low every few minutes,” Harry wrote of the time after their relationship went public in November 2016. “I’d been braced for the usual madness, the standards of libels, but I hadn’t anticipated this level of unrestrained lying.”

“Above all, I hadn’t been ready for the racism. Both the dog-whistle racism, and the glaring, vulgar, in-your-face racism,” Harry wrote.

Some of the book’s most eye-catching passages include allegations that Harry’s brother and heir to the throne, Prince William, physically attacked him during a dispute; that his stepmother, Camilla, the queen consort, leaked private conversations to bolster her reputation; and that his father, King Charles III, had pleaded with his sons not to make his final years “a misery” with their arguing.

The publication of such a frank and revealing account is a near-unprecedented event in the centuries-old history of Britain’s royals, who as Harry has pointed out double as both a family and national institution. The book has led to questions over whether it could deal lasting damage to the monarchy, even asking whether its future existence is now less certain.

The monarchy’s overall popularity rating has halved from plus 44 to plus 18 since September 2022, according to new figures from the British polling company YouGov released Tuesday.

“There may be some lasting damage to the reputation of the royal family — but not to the extent of undermining consent for a monarchy,” Suzannah Lipscomb, a Professor Emerita at the University of Roehampton and a royal historian, told NBC News. “In terms of public opinion, I suspect it is Harry’s popularity itself that will be most greatly diminished.”

Almost two-thirds of the British public now hold a negative view of Harry, with just a quarter expressing a positive view, according to the YouGov poll. This means that Harry’s net favorability rating is minus 38, the lowest it’s ever been and a far cry from 2011, when he had a score of plus 65.

Meghan’s popularity has fallen to minus 42, YouGov said. Although she remains slightly popular with 18- to 24-year-olds, her support even among this group has fallen sharply.

Harry’s confessions and accusations may have hurt his reputation in Britain — just as his mother, Princess Diana, was criticized for sharing details of her divorce from Charles in a famous BBC interview in 1995.

But that criticism might not be the case in his adopted homeland, Lipscomb said.

“Harry comes across as deeply troubled and aggrieved, and there is a sense that he has stepped over a line: Discretion is still valued on this side of the pond, and these revelations have nearly exhausted public sympathy. My sense is that U.K. public opinion is that Harry has gone too far,” Lipscomb said.

In writing such a searing account of his life, and granting a flurry of interviews during which he openly discusses the deep rift with his father and brother, Harry could be mirroring the stereotype of the emotionally open and uncomplicated American — an image that clearly appealed to him even before he met Meghan. 

Harry describes how he had been warned from childhood that Americans were “Too loud, too rich, too happy. Too confident, too direct, too honest,” but that he felt differently. “‘Nah,’ I always thought. ‘Yanks didn’t beat about the bush, didn’t fill the air with polite snorts and throat clearings before coming to the point. Whatever was on their mind, they’d spit it out, like a sneeze, and while that could be problematic at times, I usually found it preferable to the alternative.’”

He also describes how he fell quickly in love with Meghan Markle after seeing her picture on a friend’s Instagram. 

“This woman stopped the conveyor-belt. This woman smashed the conveyor-belt to bits. I’d never seen anyone so beautiful,” Harry wrote. 

“There was an energy about her, a wild joy and playfulness,” he added. “I’d never had a firm opinion on that burning question: Is there just one person on this earth for each of us? But in that moment I felt there might be only one face for me.”

The book follows the couple’s Netflix series, which aired many of their grievances over the course of six hours. Harry has also sat down for high-profile TV interviews to promote the ghostwritten memoir. The royal palaces have declined to comment on the memoir and interviews. The Sussexes, through Archwell, have declined to comment on the record.

Prince Harry alleges in a much-anticipated new memoir that his brother Prince William lashed out and physically attacked him during a furious argument over the brothers' deteriorating relationship.
Tourists walk around Buckingham Palace in London on Friday. Kirsty Wigglesworth / AP

Harry has said that he still wants a reconciliation with his family and believes one is possible, but asked whether he had burned his bridges with his father and brother, he told ITV in an interview conducted in December that aired on Sunday: “I’m not sure how honesty is burning bridges. You know, silence only allows the abuser to abuse, right? So I don’t know how staying silent is ever going to make things better.”

He has also spoken to CBS’ “60 Minutes” and ABC’s “Good Morning America,” and he will appear on “The Late Show With Stephen Colbert.”

His family had gotten “into bed with the devil” to gain favorable tabloid coverage, he has said. 

While Harry has waged war against the British media and its intrusion and negative headlines, the saga has been a huge boost for the British papers — which have enthusiastically covered every twist and turn, including the publication of his much-anticipated book. 

“The only winners here are the press who are feasting over the corpse of a once-loving fraternal relationship,” said experienced royal commentator and former British newspaper journalist Emily Andrews. 

“I don’t think Harry and Megan’s public image is repairable in the U.K.; I think it’s gone beyond that,” she added.

The end of the book details the days leading up to the public and surprising break with the royal family, as Meghan and Harry took their small family first to Canada and then the U.S. He says that the queen, under pressure from her household, rescinded an invitation to meet and, he hoped, discuss the ongoing familial tensions. 

Regardless of the danger he felt his family was in, and the disappointment with his family, Harry said he would “forever support my queen, my Commander in Chief, my Granny. Even after she’s gone.”

“My problem has never been with the monarchy, or the concept of monarchy. It’s been with the press and the sick relationship that’s evolved between it and the palace. I love my mother country, and I love my family, and I always will.” 

In going to war with the media and turning his version of events into prime-time viewing, and certain bestsellers, Harry has also squabbled publicly with his family. Only time will tell whether this rift is irreparable.