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Texting and IMs lead to sex sooner?

If you engage in sexting and sexy instant messages with the object of your lust (or love, I'll try not to be completely cynical), you may round the bases faster to get him or her into bed, if that's something that matters to you. (Don't lie and say it isn't.) In a survey of 1,200 men and women released today, nearly four out of five women and three of five men said they believe sexy messages on phones and social networks do cause new couples to skip to the main event sooner. 

Although it can be argued that these are the very couples who are already in the throes of mutual attraction anyhow — aren't they? — so they're already most likely to get it on.

The poll, conducted by Shape and Men's Fitness magazines, does show some contradictions. Even though they may think sexy tech gets other couples in bed faster, it apparently doesn't apply to them: Only 38 percent of women say they have actually done the deed any sooner because of the digital foreplay.

The survey also found jealousy and curiosity still prevail in modern relationships, so it's not surprising that technology is incorporated in that aspect of human nature too: 72 percent of women report scouring a current partner's ex-girlfriends' Facebook pages. 

But tech also seems to intrude on sex, as much as it can facilitate the act. Five percent of those polled said they glance to see who's calling or texting — while they're having sex. (Rude! Or maybe it's the person they're supposed to be with!) I just know I'd clobber someone I was with if they turned out to be among the one percent who said they'd stop to answer the phone.

Other interesting tidbits revealed in the third annual sex survey:

  • Lust/love begins with Google and other online screening tools for 70 percent of women and 63 percent of men, who presumably want to make sure they're not dating someone who's married, deep in debt or some kind of criminal.
  • Once the date clears those security protocols, then they're likely to be among the 65 percent of those polled who admitted being asked out via text or the 49 percent who were pursued through Facebook. 
  • With contact established, texting reigns as the preferred method of keeping tabs on the other, with men texting 39 percent more often than phoning and women 150 percent more. 
  • Smart phones and laptops replace rose petals strewn around the boudoir, with 80 percent of women and 58 percent of men pinpointing these devices as love tools. 
  • The end of a relationship is also not immune to the Britney Spears effect (those of you not familiar with pop culture, the pop diva famously dumped Kevin Federline via text a few years ago). The survey found 43 percent of women and 27 percent of men received break-up texts. 

Find the entire survey in current editions of the magazines, which hits newsstands today or download the free iPad app versions of the publications! I tried looking for the survey on the web sites, but did not score. 

Reuters also contributed to this report.